I have discovered that there are two types of love. The love that God has created and the love that society has created. It is time to separate the two. I have grown to understand that once you tell someone you love them, you are telling them to never change. You have placed a seal on approval on the person that they are towards you forever. This can be a wonderful thing, that is if that person is wonderful. You truly love someone once you have discovered that you can live with their flaws, but here is where it gets cloudy.
I am so sick of hearing women declare that no one is perfect, and because of that they put up with a ridiculous amount of bullshit. I am so sick of hearin gwomen state that love is forgiveness, and because of that they allow him to disrespect and abuse them. This love that was created by society does not exist. It is an idea. An opiniuon that you have formed in your head. You say you love him because you have made yourself believe that you do actually love him. Here are a few guidelines:
1. To forgive is to let go of the resentment and bitterness for your own sake, it is not something you do for him. It is prescribed so that the hate does not consume you. It does not mean put up with bullshit.
2. Before you tell him you love him, examine his flaws and be sure that you can live with him.
3. If you feel like in being yourself you will lose him, then he is not the one for you.
4. If you feel like you cannot be alone then there is something else in your life that is missing. For me it was God.
Who gets to tell their own stories? Who holds the privilege of writing themselves? This blog began as a way for me to collect my thoughts and vent my anger, now it is a way for me to collect myself and present that collection to others.
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